You know what the irony of bars is? Everyone expects to either pick up there or be picked up. Guess what though? It doesn’t happen for most people! Most women, go in there thinking they’ll pick up, go home alone and think something must be wrong with her. Most guys go in there, same thing happens, thinks women are all faulty or he’s faulty somehow.
The truth? Its actually normal! Very few people pick up successfully at bars. The main reason for this is a set of confusions, misunderstanding, miss communication and ignorance. Let me present to you both the female and male ones.
1) Men Misunderstanding-> If a woman is interested in me, she’ll show me every sign. If I approach without her giving me the right signs, I’ll just be seen as a pervert.
What he misses? She thinks that if she shows a sign, she’ll be seen as too easy or a slut. So she’s desperately trying to get his attention indirectly. Women actually BELIEVE that you can pick up on the fact she glanced over into your direction 3 times in one hour, for 2-3 seconds a glance. I’m not kidding!!!! If you actually miss this sign, and don’t approach her, she actually thinks you’ve rejected her! Yes, its crazy, I know, but its also true.
2) Women Misunderstanding -> If a man is interested in me, he’ll come over and introduce himself like a real man, without waiting for my invitiation. If I invite him first, he’ll think I’m easy and disrespect me.
What she misses? Its really, really hard for a guy to approach! He runs the risk of being seen as a pervert, approaching the wrong woman… and most importantly of all, we men can’t read subtle signals! When we approach, we are playing what feels like russian roulette. We wish women would be just a bit clearer in their signals.
Ok, ok, so that’s why hooking up at bars tends to fail most of the time. But what can you personally do about it? What can you as a guy do to improve your own odds? How can you pick up girls at a bar? Well, there is a way to work around these issues… Well, there is always the… secret!
THE SECRET: Instead of hitting on women, be friendly
Because of the missunderstandings I mentioned, you can not know which girls is interested up front right? But if you just hit on the ones you find cute, you are playing russian roulette and risking rejection. The solution I (and tons of players) have found is to play the social card. You see, this way, you just approach women just to be social. Imagine talking to people in your company, at school or any social circle. You’re just being social.
The reason this works out, is that if she’s not interested, hey, it just remains friendly, and everyone is left feeling great having socialized with someone new. If she’s interested, she can now show signs of interest! She now feels free to show more direct interest in you. After all, you’ve approached her, so its no longer “wrong” to start flirting with you now. You’ve performed the first move.
So in essence, the secret on how to pick up girls at a bar is… Walk in there, have fun, talk to everyone, socialize, meet and introduce yourself to everyone and every group. Eventually, one of the women you’ve met, will start showing signs of interest. This is the one you start flirting with, and invite home. Trust me on this, in any bar, there’s at least 2-3 cute girls who would love to be picked up by you! The trick is in finding them! 
And this strategy is by far the easiest way to do this.
